In the last week we have discovered that one of our in-laws has recently started to carry on extra-marital affairs both as a way to assuage their pain and to make an exit from the relationship. It has been messy and hurtful and the rest of the family has been hooked in and asked for opens and advice from the betrayed party. I can’t tell if the worst part is that there are children involved or that the cheater has shown no remorse or understanding of the damage they have done. And yet, is it really up to me to judge?
Clearly I would not now do such a thing as the pain and suffering for everyone would be too much to bear but in my youth I was a faithless cheater and womanizer. I have no high ground on which to stand so it’s best if I immediately eschew such thinking. At best I can remind myself of the fact that the cheater wants happiness, not suffering and just how mistaken they are in their approach. May all beings be free of pain and suffering.